Scattered thoughts. High thinking.
Klandring of the victim. You get the client to be ashamed. And that was exactly the approach our parents used to get us to change ourselves.
implication that society places a focus on the individual we see in the help offered (in therapy). The responsibility lies on the individual. Handy for it in power. As can evade responsibility.
The Swedish psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Clarence Crafoord was in Skavlan last night . At least two of his children, sons Alexander and Wille , seem (rightly) to be quite critical of him as a parent and how he handled his parentage.
To me, he seems to be the world's selfish.
Here the Crafoord and on one of his books .
He has been a trainer of psychotherapists in Sweden and is highly regarded in these circles in Sweden?
We have learned not to trust ourselves and what we know. Therefore, we believe in authority figures - OR reject all authority.
We find it most difficult to get angry at those who have the highest responsibility, or who committed the abuse. Our parents at the earliest in life. And the less we got help to question what they did or it was loving what they were doing or - as is most difficult to realize on their own - that it actually was loveless, the more we bring this up in life.
Come to think of how often each of the families (and this is in part still?):
"Children need to learn!"
My first teachers were in this really old trunk and read edifying, moral tales in school in the morning then we sang hymn "Your clear sun, etc!
Children's intrinsic evil - and selfishness (self-absorption) - must be brought up. But the strong man has been protected! And's actions have been declared and ursäktats. But being let down is even more painful? That the other adult is not defended one, against anger outbursts, lack of respect for the child and the emotions (including emotional incest, ie. To use the child as chat partner / therapist rather than to another adult), of corporal punishment or even sexual abuse (even as of improper touching), for example.
Children are dependent, they would not be different from their parents, they are weaker, less dangerous - and easier to shape. They can change and it will also change.
And is not fully aware of himself as can be made elsewhere are not familiar with others. But all those who helped one to question: in books (like Alice Miller and those who told about his childhood), has helped many a stepping stone to greater empathy, both with oneself and with others.
it here to teach a client to set limits based on so to speak, without understanding (not just on an intellectual, but also emotional level), what has it achieved? Increased compassion, empathy?
Has the individual implicitly in a little deeper level why she / he finds it difficult to set standards?
In the most damaged, it helps enough not to read (books or articles by Alice Miller, for example).
"You can not blame everything on parents (head)!"
How effective long-term is thus "help"?
Shame Deposition of client leads to recovery?
"do this, do so! You should ... "
Some therapists believe that it is a violation of parents talking about what a child should and should not feel, think, think. And perhaps it is a violation in other contexts also, when an adult in words or by implication, does the same!? When the therapist does the same too.
Learning client put limits might be needed in an emergency! But in the longer term, this is sufficient? Perhaps for those who are minor injuries.
But if the client fails to put the border sooner or later, what happens then? Begins individual blame himself: I am hopeless!
And some therapists believe that just this: to blame himself is a defense strategy of the small child to survive abuse and violation. This defense strategy comes with if you have not received help to treat the trauma, in adult life. And they tend to blame themselves and take the blame even when it should not be there. Alternatively, push off the responsibility and guilt.
But again, it is sufficient just tell the client that it ought not to claim the debt, that it has no liability in a particular situation or not to take on so much responsibility?
therapist should help to understand more deeply why there is excessive responsibility, excessive självklandrande.
But the problem is not those who take on too much responsibility or self-blame, but all that pushing off the responsibility and have no guilt, perhaps! They are the last to visit a therapist.
And psychoanalysis criticizes the child and his instincts!
It was not about parents' (perverse) or impulses (perverted needs)!? Because of what they in turn have experienced. However, therapy should not be about understanding the parents and their motives? For it is precisely that which the child have had to deal with. And it prevents contact with one's own feelings?
And I do not believe in the Wille Craaford said that reconciliation with the parents. In this case, not least with his father and his way of being a father.
Is it possible to see them for what they were and did not forgive or excuse the sound and stand up for himself?
individualisation of society continues in therapy: to shift responsibility on the individual (who should be embarrassed and ashamed of the tiger and becomes more or less blind to how it actually is treated and what rights he / she actually had all the signs of this world: having a roof over their heads, food on the floor etc.., at least). And of course we as individuals responsible for ourselves, but ...
Danish director Susanne Bier was also in Skavlan and talked about where the revenge - and forgiveness. If I remember correctly. The English Wikipedia article a lot more information about Bier and her background and upbringing than both the Danish and Swedish!
Supplement October 17: see if 'DSM diagnosis of money and power - the summation of the criticism of the DSM. "
And here victim role - again .
The American therapist Jean Jenson has written about this, see here , previous posts with links.
See the following articles: “The global financial mess: blaming the victims” bav Ann Pettifor, “Blaming the Victim: Domestic and Codependency model” av Greg Dear, “The Shame of Blaming the Victims – In a desperate attempt to protect the president, the right wing has resorted to blaming the victims” av Amanda Marcotte, “Victims are never to blame for coercive, abusive ‘relationships’ – in this guest post, Cara Grayling tackles our victim-blaming culture.”
