About Fidelity .... Customs can tell a lot about loyalty and can be viewed from many perspectives as we learned from a book I read a recently - "How to be Happy Couple" by Dr. Gerard Leleu (sexologist and therapist couple).
From the book that I chose a few pieces about love and fidelity that I liked and I found it interesting.
"After all, only to be recognized fidelity is fidelity to himself, which consists in affirming without concession of what we are deep in fulfillment of those things that we did."
"The greatest success is to become human, the affective, a perfect person, able to evolve into more mature forms of love, to build true love."
"In torque, emotional difficulties are never caused by just one partner. It's a mistake to accuse the other that is causing your own unhappiness and your behavior, and each must look within himself his reasons for the difficulties and reactions. Our dark side, our child appointments, our choices, etc.. generates shortcomings, our failures and we trigger sadness, fear, anger. How about pain, resentment and each is responsible. If it is outrageous to some and more tolerable to others, it all depends on the depth of each wound famous. He is empowering you to recognize the role of the wound and try and bind himself, without expecting someone else to do. "
" Source of love is love of self and, by extension, love of life. "
"You can not truly love someone unless you love yourself. You can not reach self-giving love, unless you have gone through self-love. In general, love for others, to be authentic, must be founded on love of self. "
"Loyalty can not be happy unless it is spontaneous and inspired by a love that is beyond the turmoil of feelings and desires, beyond ego, a love connected to something that transcends us and that gives meaning to our behavior."
"Loyalty can not be demanded from outside or by a partner or by a particular religious or civil authority. It can not be elected than required by ourselves and ourselves, our relation with the divine. Freedom of the other is sacred, it is not our property. He would like to have it considered means of an object while it is subject, his share divina.De report here depends on us to grant him his freedom our freedom. However, possession is the opposite of a real relationship. "
The above resonates well with me, my personality, however, is different, every human being has their own opinions, perceptions and feelings. What I think that this book taught me and what I feel is that it's important to be able to love someone we must first love ourselves in order to receive love in a row must darium noastru a genuine and unconditional love and most importantly, have a happy and honest relationship is absolutely necessary to remain faithful to our own people, our feelings and our desires to be faithful and other aspects of life.
always stay who you are, do not deny your feelings and desires and do not merge into another personality, a person does not become dependent on someone else in terms of emotional and always remember that love is something divine, feel the love that is divine from you so watch it, do it to grow every day to achieve happiness and enlightenment.